I read an article on Salon.com about a woman who’s 30 year old son won’t leave home. Not only will he not leave but he also won’t help share the costs of living there. Every time the mother brings up the fact that she really needs him to help with the costs, he blows up and gets angry. She’s afraid of making too big of a deal about it because he’s the only family she has.
It sure sounds like the son has figured out how to play with his mom’s emotions and live on easy street. Sure, blow up when your mom brings up the issue of money. If you make it uncomfortable enough, she’ll quit bringing it up. You know she isn’t going to kick you out because you are the only family you’ve got.
As I read through the article it was clear that the mom realizes what’s going on but just doesn’t know how to take it to the next step. I completely agree with the Salon writer. Kick him out gently and make him start realizing what the real world looks like. He’s been drifting on easy street too long. And what kind of son disregards his mothers current and future well being for his own selfish needs? Grow up Junior!!!
http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2007/09/04/living_at_home/?source=whitelist