Comments on: Son Won’t Leave Home

By: Sheila

Sheila — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 01:48:51 +0000

I have a nephew who is on this path. I blame the mom, too!

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Sun, 09 Sep 2007 12:04:18 +0000

I blame the mom. Sorry mom, no sympathy from me. Sink or swim time!

By: Hazzard

Hazzard — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 16:07:02 +0000

Yeah, I think you may have a point. It certainly isn’t considered normal social behavior to live with your mom in to your 30’s. It probably would warrant a bit deeper analysis by a professional.

By: Bob

Bob — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 16:03:38 +0000

“Bob, I’d love to hear what he has to say but something tells me he wouldn’t be motivated enough to type a reply. Just guessing.”

Yeah but think of it from a guys point of view: It effects you social status and how other people percieve you, what’s he gonna do if he wants to get married? The thing is I think there is something wrong with this fellow and his mother was too dumb to pickup on it, he probably needs to see a psychiatrist. Go read up on Aspergers Syndrome, it’s possible he has a rough time in the social world and doesn’t know how to cope.

His “arguments” with his mother might be more about his FEAR of being on his own then simply trying to rip off his mother. I don’t buy what the mother is selling because what this man is doing is pretty self-destructive.

By: Hazzard

Hazzard — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 21:24:22 +0000

Bob,
I’d love to hear what he has to say but something tells me he wouldn’t be motivated enough to type a reply. Just guessing.

Mapgirl,
Moving might not be a bad idea if she’s a renter, although it seems like she’d be making all the sacrifice. I’d just toss him out. It would yield the same result.

By: mapgirl

mapgirl — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 20:58:29 +0000

Why doesn’t she just move and say he can’t go with her? (This is assuming she lives in a rental though because she said ‘rent’ in her letter.)

She could just make fun of him that no woman will date a man who still lives at home with his mom. Or watch Failure to Launch as a discussion opener.

By: Bob

Bob — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 20:47:42 +0000

Don’t assume the mother is telling the whole story. I really dont believe it’s as simple as that. If he’s chronically depressed or suicidal or has some sort of neurological disability that’s gone undiagnosed we don’t know.

He could just be a bum, but I’m not apt to trust her word for it. After all why would you WILLINGLY bum off your mother and live with your family when it effects EVERYTHING in your life and how people percieve you? Girls don’t dig that in a guy obviously.