Comments on: Went Shopping With My 4 Year Old Daughter http://www.everybodylovesyourmoney.com/2007/12/14/went-shopping-with-my-4-year-old-daughter.html Living for today - Planning for Tomorrow Thu, 18 Mar 2010 17:14:15 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Jerry http://www.everybodylovesyourmoney.com/2007/12/14/went-shopping-with-my-4-year-old-daughter.html/comment-page-1#comment-118267 Jerry Fri, 21 Dec 2007 05:43:05 +0000 http://www.everybodylovesyourmoney.com/2007/12/14/went-shopping-with-my-4-year-old-daughter.html#comment-118267 1) You're doing something right! I have been seeing a lot of (TOO MANY) entitled and oh-so-annoying children these days, and reading about your kid leads me to believe that there is hope in this world... 2) While there is no insurance that your kids will make correct decisions, I think that if we teach them about money, expense, and hard work they will be able to figure things out very easily. It may also save them from mistakes that we made! Thanks for sharing... Jerry 1) You’re doing something right! I have been seeing a lot of (TOO MANY) entitled and oh-so-annoying children these days, and reading about your kid leads me to believe that there is hope in this world…
2) While there is no insurance that your kids will make correct decisions, I think that if we teach them about money, expense, and hard work they will be able to figure things out very easily. It may also save them from mistakes that we made! Thanks for sharing…
Jerry

]]> By: Aino http://www.everybodylovesyourmoney.com/2007/12/14/went-shopping-with-my-4-year-old-daughter.html/comment-page-1#comment-118026 Aino Wed, 19 Dec 2007 22:28:54 +0000 http://www.everybodylovesyourmoney.com/2007/12/14/went-shopping-with-my-4-year-old-daughter.html#comment-118026 "we intentionally don’t buy toys when we take her shopping because we don’t want her to develop an expectation" While I don't have children yet - this is definitely one of the things I will be incorporating. Sounds like you guys are doing a good job :) Love your blog by the way! “we intentionally don’t buy toys when we take her shopping because we don’t want her to develop an expectation”

While I don’t have children yet – this is definitely one of the things I will be incorporating. Sounds like you guys are doing a good job :)

Love your blog by the way!

]]> By: Hazzard http://www.everybodylovesyourmoney.com/2007/12/14/went-shopping-with-my-4-year-old-daughter.html/comment-page-1#comment-117832 Hazzard Tue, 18 Dec 2007 16:42:37 +0000 http://www.everybodylovesyourmoney.com/2007/12/14/went-shopping-with-my-4-year-old-daughter.html#comment-117832 Thanks for the advice Mama Mia, I think we will try to incorporate that word in to our vocabulary more. We have used it, but it does sound like a good idea to start using it more. I'd like her to recognize that we choose to spend money or not. I'd also like her to begin realizing that, in many cases, we choose to create good and bad situations to put ourselves in. Thanks for the advice Mama Mia,

I think we will try to incorporate that word in to our vocabulary more. We have used it, but it does sound like a good idea to start using it more. I’d like her to recognize that we choose to spend money or not.

I’d also like her to begin realizing that, in many cases, we choose to create good and bad situations to put ourselves in.

]]> By: Mia http://www.everybodylovesyourmoney.com/2007/12/14/went-shopping-with-my-4-year-old-daughter.html/comment-page-1#comment-117826 Mia Tue, 18 Dec 2007 15:02:59 +0000 http://www.everybodylovesyourmoney.com/2007/12/14/went-shopping-with-my-4-year-old-daughter.html#comment-117826 I love your story, sounds much like my own children at different stages in their life. May I make a suggestion for the next time you're explaining to your daughter why you aren't buying her something? (I hope it's alright that I assume it's okay that I do suggest). Instead of saying "...we can’t spend the money on one now”, say "we or I "chose" not to spend my/our money on this." We use this word, choice, with our kids and it's really starting to sink into them that what we spend our money on is a choice... yes, sometimes it's "can't" because it's not affordable or we have other needs/wants to meet, but even then it's also a choice we're making... buy groceries, or buy a toy. This also leads nicely into discussions about the value of our purchases...should I chose to spend $5 on this cheap toy, or save more money and buy a toy that will last and give me many months of enjoyment? Sometimes I offer our boys the choice of buying them a 50cent candy or giving them the same 50cents for their savings banks. Sometimes they take the candy, sometimes not. I like that they are making a choice and thinking hard about the pros and cons of each offer. It's sounds as if you're doing a great job of teaching your daughter about money... no whining to buy things, the offer to give away her toys (even if manipulative, normal for her age) are all seeds sprouting. Good job! I love your story, sounds much like my own children at different stages in their life.

May I make a suggestion for the next time you’re explaining to your daughter why you aren’t buying her something? (I hope it’s alright that I assume it’s okay that I do suggest).

Instead of saying “…we can’t spend the money on one now”, say “we or I “chose” not to spend my/our money on this.” We use this word, choice, with our kids and it’s really starting to sink into them that what we spend our money on is a choice… yes, sometimes it’s “can’t” because it’s not affordable or we have other needs/wants to meet, but even then it’s also a choice we’re making… buy groceries, or buy a toy. This also leads nicely into discussions about the value of our purchases…should I chose to spend $5 on this cheap toy, or save more money and buy a toy that will last and give me many months of enjoyment?

Sometimes I offer our boys the choice of buying them a 50cent candy or giving them the same 50cents for their savings banks. Sometimes they take the candy, sometimes not. I like that they are making a choice and thinking hard about the pros and cons of each offer.

It’s sounds as if you’re doing a great job of teaching your daughter about money… no whining to buy things, the offer to give away her toys (even if manipulative, normal for her age) are all seeds sprouting. Good job!

]]> By: Jessica http://www.everybodylovesyourmoney.com/2007/12/14/went-shopping-with-my-4-year-old-daughter.html/comment-page-1#comment-117463 Jessica Sat, 15 Dec 2007 18:00:06 +0000 http://www.everybodylovesyourmoney.com/2007/12/14/went-shopping-with-my-4-year-old-daughter.html#comment-117463 We don't have children yet but I am determined to make them understand money. My husband is a doctor and people think we have money coming out the wazoo. It's so important for me to teach them these things! Good job! We don’t have children yet but I am determined to make them understand money. My husband is a doctor and people think we have money coming out the wazoo. It’s so important for me to teach them these things! Good job!

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