My daughter has been in swim lessons for a few weeks. Normally the routine is that my wife and daughter carpool with the neighbors (who have a daughter the same age) and I sit at home taking up space on the couch or surfing the web. For the last couple lessons, the neighbors were out of town and I didn’t want my wife to have to go alone so I tagged along.

On Monday we arrived at the swimming pool (Indoor). I wouldn’t even have to say that if you knew I lived in the Pacific Northwest. Anyway, we got there and hadn’t been sitting for more than a couple minutes when a nice lady sat down next to us. Her son was in the class and I have to say, she was quite a chatty lady. Somehow I always manage to steer the conversation towards personal finance or related subjects. Well, it didn’t take much before the woman started spilling her guts about the precarious situation she has found herself in. She and her husband have two kids ages 3 and 5. They purchased a brand new townhouse last year at the peak of the market. Now they are realizing the area that they bought in to doesn’t have good schools, in fact it actually has pretty miserable schools, and she would love to move. She’d also like to live in a house, although I’m not quite sure why they didn’t realize that before they bought the townhouse. The reality for them, though, is that they can’t move. The builder is now selling brand new units just like theirs for $40K less than they spent. On top of that, it turns out that the builder passed on the sewer connection fees of over $4,000 to each unit owner and the bill just came in the mail. Needless to say, she’s feeling trapped and not very happy. She’s coming to the realization that her only option is to go back to work. While she feels that’s an option that she has in her back pocket I have to wonder whether it really is. She mentioned that her background is in montessori teaching. To my knowledge, the pay scale for that type of job isn’t very good so the daycare costs could easily knock out the benefit of doing that.

This woman was the first person that I’ve talked to in our area that is actually upside down in her house. Listening to her, I found myself feeling really bad for her. The strain in her voice and desperation in her eyes told me that this was causing them a lot of hardship. All that being said, they aren’t at risk of losing their home. I can only imagine how much more stressful it would be to be facing bills you can’t afford to pay.

Are you in a position like this woman, or do you know someone who is? If so, what part of the country are you in? While we’ve been pretty sheltered from the imploding real estate market in the rest of the country, it’s pretty clear our number is also up. I guess it’s time to hunker down a bit.