8 Things You Should NEVER Buy Someone You Just Started Dating

There are certain things you should never buy someone you just started dating.

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So, you’ve met someone new and the spark is undeniable. You’re texting nonstop, sharing memes, and maybe even finishing each other’s sentences. Then—boom—it’s their birthday, a holiday, or some random day that feels gift-worthy. Suddenly, the panic sets in: What do I get them without looking too intense or too cheap? Here’s the truth—some gifts are too much, too soon.

To save you from the awkward “uh, thanks?” moment, here are eight things you should absolutely, positively never buy someone you just started dating.

1. Overly Expensive Jewelry

Sure, a sparkling necklace or sleek watch might seem romantic, but let’s be real—it screams too much, too soon. Early in a relationship, expensive jewelry sets expectations that the connection is deeper (and longer-lasting) than it actually is. You might think you’re being generous, but it can make the other person uncomfortable or feel pressured. Plus, if things don’t work out, there’s no graceful way to ask for it back without looking like a walking red flag. Stick with something thoughtful but low-stakes, like a small accessory that says, “I like you,” not, “Let’s merge bank accounts.”

2. Perfume or Cologne

Scent is deeply personal—what smells divine to you might remind someone else of their high school gym teacher. When you’re still getting to know someone, buying them a fragrance assumes you already know their tastes inside and out. Plus, the wrong scent can backfire fast and create an awkward situation every time they spritz it. There’s also an unintended level of intimacy that comes with choosing someone’s “signature scent.” Until you’ve hit at least the “leave a toothbrush at their place” phase, keep fragrances off the shopping list.

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3. Clothing That Requires Guessing Sizes

Nothing kills romantic vibes faster than guessing your new partner’s size—and getting it wrong. Too big, and it’s a confidence killer; too small, and you’ve just created a self-esteem landmine. Even if you nail the size, style preferences can be tricky territory early on. You don’t yet know whether they’re a cozy-sweater person or a sleek-streetwear fan. Save yourself the stress (and potential embarrassment) and wait until you’ve spent enough time together to shop confidently.

4. Anything Too Sentimental or Personalized

Custom photo mugs, engraved keychains, or couple’s T-shirts might seem cute—but only if you’ve been together for a while. Early in dating, it can feel forced or overly serious. You don’t want to give off “we’re already planning matching gravestones” energy before you’ve even met their parents. Personal gifts suggest a level of emotional commitment that’s just too intense too early. Keep it lighthearted and simple until you both know you’re in it for the long haul.

5. A Pet (Seriously, Don’t)

It should go without saying, but yes—people have actually done this. Giving someone a pet when you’ve only been dating for a few weeks is not romantic; it’s reckless. A living creature isn’t a surprise gift—it’s a massive responsibility that shouldn’t be dropped on anyone without discussion. Even if you both love animals, you can’t predict their lifestyle, allergies, or readiness for pet ownership. If you’re looking for something adorable, stick to a plush toy or a funny pet-themed card instead.

6. Over-the-Top Romantic Gestures

We’re talking huge teddy bears, rose petal trails, or surprise weekend getaways. These things sound like a scene from a rom-com, but in reality, they can make your new partner feel trapped in a love story they didn’t sign up for yet. Grand gestures are better saved for anniversaries, not month two. When you barely know each other’s middle names, spending a fortune on romance feels like emotional fast-forwarding. A small, clever gift that makes them smile will do far more good than a dramatic overplay.

7. Self-Help or “Fix-You” Gifts

No matter how “well-intentioned” it seems, don’t buy your new flame a self-help book, a gym membership, or anything that implies improvement. You might think you’re being supportive, but it sends the message that they need fixing—which is both rude and presumptuous. Early dating is about appreciation, not optimization. Even gifting something like skincare or wellness gadgets can be misinterpreted. The best gifts for a new relationship show interest, not critique.

8. Anything Too Practical (Like Household Items)

Nothing says “romance” like… a new set of dish towels? Nope. When you’re just starting out, practical gifts feel more like something you’d give a roommate or distant relative. A blender, toolkit, or vacuum cleaner sends a very utilitarian message: “I care about your chores.” Save the functional gifts for later, when you’re officially cohabitating and debating what color curtains to buy. For now, focus on gifts that are fun, light, and a little flirty instead of practical and dull.

The Best Gifts Come with Zero Pressure

When you’re in the early stages of dating, the goal isn’t to impress—it’s to connect. The best gifts are ones that show thoughtfulness without tipping into “too much” territory. Think small, funny, or meaningful in a lighthearted way. Skip the pricey, personal, or overly intimate items until you both know where things are heading.

Have you ever received (or accidentally given) a disastrous early-relationship gift? Share your stories, lessons, or laughs in the comments below.